….It will be all be over bar the shouting…
August 27th, 2017
My eldest Daughter Sarah, seen here on the extreme right,
will be marrying her partner, Tim.
So yes, this time next year ~It will all be over… that sounds melodramatic…
Let me explain
I have mixed emotions about Sarah's wedding,
I am proud and excited, but also I am filled with a kind of dread…
I have known about this day for over 22 years since the day she was born. I have done my best to prepare and save up some spare cash, ready to send her on her way, The cost of that single day is nearly the same as most people earn in a year! Just how was I going to pull this rabbit out of the hat?
I seem to have spent my entire life worrying about money, always having just enough to get by, but never really having any to spare.
My wife and I have never argued about money, when we have had it. We only ever argue when we do not have enough, and now as I approach retirement, I feel increasingly trapped.
- Trapped by my circumstances,
- Trapped by my pride as the father provider,
- Trapped by the very things that matter most to me.
My need to provide for my wife and family,
- Trapped by the idiotic social conventions, that see young couples cripple themselves with wedding costs that make your eyes water!
- The bill for next year will be more than I can make in a year as a lorry driver, or as a hotelier. Probably more than my wife and I’s combined income in the past.
In reality we are not expected to pay that bill, but I dream that I could …
I really would like to say
“have what you want, money no object… “
and mean it with all my heart.
Reality check … in real terms my daughters wedding is being paid for by myself, the grooms parents, and in a three way split, by the bride and groom themselves. I have even set a top limit as to exactly how much I will contribute.
That figure is all I have been able to save in preparation for this day… sad really I had always hoped to be able to do better…
In my life I have always known that working for other people would never give me the freedom I wanted. That freedom I still crave…
Not a freedom to waste money, to fritter it away as my folks used to say, but to know in my heart of hearts, that no matter what bill came in through the front door, I would be able to handle it…
To have a freedom from fear, that I see in others, to be able to have an ongoing income that did NOT involve me getting up in the middle of the night to go and work for people that got a full nights sleep!
I have worked for myself in the past, and even though the work was tougher and the hours longer.
I got to keep the rewards.
However I lost control of the contract negotiations and, well, to cut a long story short, I went into bankruptcy…
Boy that kills your savings!
So when I started recovering from that and was discharged I vowed to follow my Dads advice.
Work for a big company, take the shit, accept the security, grab the pension!
Fatal Flaw in this plan was that pensions had changed … no longer was there a final salary pension.
My pension was entirely in my own hands, I paid what I could, but there was always more urgent, more instant demands on the money…
It is hard to save for a rainy day when you are in the middle of a tropical storm and the roof is leaking!
Add to that, the financial crisis of 2008 and you find me in a perilous state.
Low on savings, pension off a cliff, 4 children and a mortgage!
My financial advisor said I needed to save more… that was the last thing he ever said to me…
I knew I had to earn more, I knew I had to find a way of creating more wealth that stayed with me.
I started searching…
- I got into a Multi Level Marketing Opportunity, You may have heard of it, Amway. We did really well, but I was working incredibly hard to stand still.
- I was on an endless recruitment drive, and the people I seemed to find were just looking for quick results with no effort! ( Aren’t we all)
I have found that if anything is worth having, it will take work, and an investment of time and money.
- I have never been afraid to invest either, once I have checked out what I am getting involved with.
- The Catch, if there is one, is to find something that allows you to leverage time so you can 10 X, 20 X, or even 100X your efforts.
- After Amway which had promised so much, I went online… google..
Have you ever googled “How To Make Money Online” or words like that ?
Boy don’t you get some results… get rich quick schemes from clicking your mouse 10 times a day to selling ostrich meat.
I was getting a bit down hearted, and feeling the pinch, as I had checked out a few “opportunities”,.
My wife was becoming increasingly angry at my “obsession” and I was becoming ever more cynical.
Then one day I was sitting in a lorry park in the North East of England, and I clicked on a video that, (eventually) changed my life.
This Guy in that video spoke of the things I was searching for, but in a way that I not only understood, but that demonstrated that what I had believed to be possible was, and that it was actually achievable.
So I found an opportunity, an opportunity that allowed me to develop an income,by teaching me a skill set.
It was the training I needed.
The opportunity was provided through an online marketing training company or an academy.
The Academy provides a holistic training within it’s courses that cover every vital aspect of building any profitable business.
There is also an Affiliate Business opportunity allowing me to promote the very training that I was learning from.
So I became a product of the product if you will
Was I enthusiastic when I first met one of the founders on Video In that lorry park?
I course not, I was cynical,
I was dismissive,
I looked at my screen after a 15 hour day, and I really was,
well cynical will do.
But I was intrigued, I have to say, it was a slow burn at first.
I was very far from ready to invest in myself at that point.
I have already mentioned my wife was at the end of her rope,
I was almost at a point of giving it all up, BUT
But there was a little voice in my head that just kept saying
“What if even half of this was true?”
I just kept looking, I kept watching the videos as they arrived in my inbox.
I kept going to the next stage, I always kept my hand on the escape pod “just in case”
I kept an open mind, and went on a discovery exercise.
This all happened in 2012,
I had not been hit with the news that my daughter was getting married… it was always there though ( Did I say I have two Daughters?)
By now I knew that my pension would not keep my wife and I in “Loo Roll”, let alone food.
So I was facing a long, hard, old age working into my 70’s just to pay the bills.
So I kept an open mind, and an open heart.
I wanted something to work.
I figured out, that it had to be me.
So having found the “solution”…
was everything sweetness and light?
Did I retire six months later and ~
go live on an Island,
Then have umpteen extra daughters flown in just to marry them off?
No it wasn’t quite like that,
I took my time to figure out what was going on, and just who I was working with,
I found people who I came to trust,
people who looked beyond the monetary value of a name, and saw the real value of the person.
I found a community of like minded people who were willing to support each other and help when things got tough.
But most importantly,
I found a way to escape to the freedom I had always dreamed of,
that incredible feeling that nothing could come into my life and disrupt it.
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This time next year The Wedding will be over, but life will just be beginning